On Connection

In my last blog I wrote about rhythms and patterns and how we arrive at a time in life when we need to un-pattern in order to create more helpful ways of supporting our health and wellbeing on all levels.

An important thing that connects us in our rhythm of life and established a helpful pattern is connection.

‘What i really want is connection’ I hear my clients say again and again when we come to explore their values, this alongside peace.

We live in the world that has become so connected - the internet, globalisation, cheap flights, space travel have all helped us appreciate just how intercooneted we are. Yet despise of this, we often find ouselves feeling far removed, alone, disconnected.

I offer you some food for thought in how you too can nurture and enhance greater connection as follows:

Connection

We all want to feel connected, on some level. This may be socially with our peers, within family units, with our partners, children ... Connection is a basic human need.

Connection also means different things to each one of us and and we seek different kind of connection at different times.

We seek and, often, attain a sense of connection through shared interests, values and likes. This may take place by means of conversation, place/s, food, intimacy, activities, beauty, hobbies, work, music etc. This also happens through shared lived experiences such as a particular condition or illness. Each one of these may connect us to a part of ourselves: intellectual, spiritual, emotional, social, sexual, sensory. Vulnerable even.

We are unlikely to yearn for connection unless we experience disconnection.

It’s the disconnection that prompts us into the desire to connect. A wound that originates from the split of primordial Consciousness, the disconnection that has been relayed to us through myths such as Adam and Eve or Shakti and Shiva. The division, that is the cause of so much of our suffering and which we long to reconnect back into One can impact so many aspects of our lives.

This is the division that on day to day basis we experience as division, disconnect on spiritual, mental as well as physical bodies. It impacts our wellness, belonging, confidence, purpose, function. This disconnect makes us criticise, reject. This may be parts of ourself, our bodies, often times that which shows up as different ways in our lives.

It impacts our wellness, belonging, confidence, purpose, function.

In essence, the desire for connection is to return to One.

However in our search to connection we often settle on what feels like being connected but is merely a reflection of that.

  • other people: dependent or co-dependent relationships with others

  • substances including food, medication, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes

  • other addictions such as scrolling, pornography…

  • work, habits that are of obsessive quality

  • Whilst the above may feel connecting and safe they are often exclusive and and disconnecting of the parts of self and wholeness/oneness as such.

Some helpful ways to connect?

  • Mindfulness

    Mindfulness practice as we know it will help us feel safer in allow for more of what is as we drop the rigid censorious mindset and positivity impact our biology. This encompass what we may refer to a shadow work.

  • Writing, journalling may be part of your mindfulness practice. The act itself is likely to shine greater perspective and with that connection.

  • Spending time in nature

    In the homeopathic remedies pictures below we are helped to understand how the disconnect often takes place between our earthy and heavenly selves. Nature is neutral, elements coexist in harmony. Taking these observations in will help you return to feeling safe knowing that and as such more at one, more connected.

  • Language and actions

    This will move the intention we nurture internally into Light. Some of the following may help

    • Practice of non-violent communication. See resources for this here.

    • do something new to create new neuro pathways and challenge your schema.

  • Find others, a group where you will have an opportunity to explore these issues. I offer such group and you can find more about it here.

Homeopathy for Connection

When I came to homepatjy, I felt like I arrived HOME. Home is what feeling connected can feel like. Homeopathic remedies show us the spectrum of human essence and this includes the various ways we can experience disconnect. They help us to come back into balance, to feel more complete and connected. I share the example of a few here:

Cannabis Indica

A person needing this remedy experiences disconnection of higher(spirit) and lower (bodily/Earthy) self as separation of body and mind. This can range between

  • excitable state with exaggerated mental

  • altered emotional and sensory perceptions to a more dreamy, drug like state

  • altered time perception

  • backache

  • as a remedy that belongs to the sycotic miasm it may be great relevance in resolving infertility.

People needing this remedy may have traits, diagnosis of ADHD.

We also need to consider the use of this remedy when the person has not been well since smoking pot (dope, hash etc) from which this remedy is made.

Physically this state may manifest in migraines, preceded by unusual excitement with loquacity, urinary symptoms and more.

Pinus longaeva

This remedy is derived from a tree which is understood to be the oldest tree on earth. Again, we see the division of above and below that mirrors the division of our Earthly (body) and Cosmic (spiritual) essence.

In her proving of this remedy, Marijke Creveld identified the following themes:

  • no communication

  • being unconnected/ disconnected

  • insensitive

  • running and hurry

  • sadness and loneliness

Issues that diagnostically may point to autistic traits. Likewise:

Pseudotsuga menziesii - douglas fir

Scholten, one of my teachers, summarises this remedy picture as follows:

  • Disconnected from emotions

  • Isolation from others and from the universe

  • Trying to be connected.

  • Trying to be softer so that she can have connection.

  • Aggressive, angry, bullying

  • Eating disorders, overeating.

  • Feels alone, lonely; has no contact with adults, or with kids; no friends.

  • Does not dare to make contact, to call.

  • Wants always to be with his mother.

  • Looks negative at himself, is the only person who does so.

Invitation

Explore what connection means to you

Beneath our desire to connect is likely lay a deeper need or longing such as:

  • to be be seen, felt, heard

  • to share things meaningful things with others

  • to belong

  • to feel at ease (co-regulation)

  • to be loved

  • or is this all in pursue to be at One, with the Source, with God?

Once you have defined what connection means to you, you may wish to:

Share what connection means to you and how would you like to build with those that you wish to connect with.

  • Allow that your need for certain type and intensity of connection may changes over period of day, time.

  • Rather than rely on connection purely with that around you, how could you nurture feel more connected to yourself?

Unless we keep returning to these questions and timely communicate the aware with those that we care to connect with, we are at risk of placing ourselves in a constant state of disconnect and re-wouding.

Would you like help to feel more connected, balanced, healthier self?

As well as working through the questions above, you may wish to consider working with me. I offer the following options:

  • To get help feel more connected, get unstuck, improve your energy levels, reach your goals or build your business book a chat to discuss 1-1 TRANSFORMATIONAL COACHING WITH HOMEOPATHY

  • For energy balance using KINESIOLOGY use this booking link

  • To learn how to enhance your natural rhythm, align on all levels, book your place for the next Inner CircleGROUPCOACHING intake in April

Thank you for reading this. As always, please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions or simply wish to share how you are getting on.